Saturday, August 29, 2009

Quite type brother.

My brother went to my hometown this weekend. They have a holiday that falls on s Monday and so he was able to spend more time in there. When I called I was able to talk to him. My father said that my brother is always in his room facing the computer all the time. He only go out to eat and when he is tired but most of the time he is inside downloading movies and stuff. Anyway, he is been like that. Quite type and shy. No wonder he doesn't have a girlfriend till now. He is not a bad looking guy. In fact when he lived in Davao a lot of girls liked him but I don't know what he likes. Good luck bro.

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Madeleine meets Caroline.

I am really excited with our up coming vacation to the Philippines because Maddie and my niece Caroline is going to meet for the first time. Hopefully, with God's blessings. I pray that he shower us with good health especially my Maddie. Also, my mom is very excited and we might have a get together and blessings over there. Still hoping and praying that this time we can go home.

Sunday, August 23, 2009

10 Ways to Marry the Wrong Person.

I got this from a friend and I would like to share this to everyone. Maybe someone reading this i about to get married and learn something out of this. Watch out it is quite true.

With the divorce rate over 50 percent, too many are apparently making a
serious mistake in deciding who to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid
becoming a "statistic," try to internalize these 10 insights.
#1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married. The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after their married... for the worst!" So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
#2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry
than on character. Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character
keeps it burning. Beware of the "I'm in love" syndrome. "I'm in
love" often means, "I'm in lust." Attraction is there, but have you
carefully checked out this person's character? Here are four
character traits to definitely check for: Humility: Does this person
believe that "doing the right thing" is more important than personal
comfort? Kindness: Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other
people? How does s/he treat people s/he doesn't have to be nice to?
Does s/he do volunteer work? Give charity? Responsibility: Can I
depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he's going to do?
Happiness: Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life? Is
s/he emotionally stable? Ask yourself: Do I want to be more like
this person? Do I want to have a child with this person? Would I
like my child to turn out like him or her?
#3. You pick the wrong person because the man doesn't understand what a woman needs most. Men and women have unique emotional needs, and more often than not, it is the man who just doesn't "get it." Jewish tradition places the onus on the man to understand the emotional needs of a woman and to satisfy them. The unique need of a woman is to be loved -- to feel that she is the most important person in her husband's life. The husband needs to give her consistent, quality attention. This is most apparent in Judaism's approach to sexual intimacy. The Torah obligates the husband to meet the sexual needs of his wife. Sexual intimacy is always on the woman's terms. Men are goal-oriented, especially when it comes this area. As a wise woman once pointed out, "Men have two speeds: on and off." Women are experience-oriented. When a man is able to switch gears and become more experience-oriented, he will discover what makes his wife very happy. When the man forgets about his own needs and focuses on giving his wife pleasure, amazing things happen.
#4. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common
life goals and priorities. There are three basic ways we connect
with another person: 1. chemistry and compatibility 2. share common
interests 3. share common life goal. Make sure you share the deeper
level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage,
the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid
growing apart, you must figure out what you're "living for," while
you're single -- and then find someone who has come to the same
conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a "soul mate." A
soul mate is a goal mate -- two people who ultimately share the same
understanding of life's purpose and therefore share the same
priorities, values and goals.
#5. You choose the wrong person because you get involved sexually too quickly. Sexual involvement before the commitment of marriage can be a big problem because it often precludes a fully honest exploration of important issues. Sexual involvement tends to cloud one's mind. And a clouded mind is not inclined to make good decisions. Of all the studies done on divorce, sexual incompatibility is never cited as a main factor. It is not necessary to take a "test drive" in order to find out if a couple is sexually compatible. If you do your homework and make sure you are intellectually and emotionally compatible, you don't have to worry about sexual compatibility.
#6. You pick the wrong person because you do not have a deeper
emotional connection with this person. To evaluate whether you have
a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: "Do I respect and admire
this person?" This does not mean, "Am I impressed by this person?"
We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because
they own a Mercedes. You should be impressed by qualities of
creativity, loyalty, determination, etc. Also ask: "Do I trust this
person?" This also means, "Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I
can rely on him/her?
#7. You pick the wrong person because you choose someone with whom you don't feel emotionally safe. Ask yourself the following questions: Do I feel calm, peaceful and relaxed with this person? Can I fully be myself and express myself with this person? Does this person make me feel good about myself? Do you have a really close friend who does make you feel this way? Make sure the person you marry makes you feel the same way! Are you afraid of this person in any way? You should not feel you need to monitor what you say because you are afraid of how the other person will view it. If you're afraid to express your feelings and opinions openly, there's a problem with the relationship. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. Another aspect of feeling safe is that you don't feel the other person is trying to control you. Controlling behaviors are a sign of an abusive person. Be on the look out for someone who is always trying to change you. There's a big difference between "controlling" and "making suggestions." A suggestion is made for your benefit; a control statement is made for their benefit.
#8. You pick the wrong person because you don't put everything on
the table. Anything that bothers you about the relationship must be
brought up for discussion. Bringing up the uncomfortable stuff is
the only way to evaluate how well the two of you communicate,
negotiate, and work together. Over the course of a lifetime,
difficulties will inevitably arise. You need to know now, before
making a commitment: Can you resolve your differences and find
compromises that work for both of you? Never be afraid to let the
person know what bothers you. This is also a way for you to test how
vulnerable you can be with this person. If you can't be vulnerable,
then you can't be intimate. The two go hand in hand.
#9. You pick the wrong person because you use the relationship to escape from personal problems and unhappiness. If you are unhappy and single, you'll probably be unhappy and married, too. Marriage does not fix personal, psychological and emotional problems. If anything, marriage will exacerbate them. If you are not happy with yourself and your life, take responsibility to fix it now while you are single. You'll feel better, and your future spouse will thank you.
#10. You pick the wrong person because he/she is involved in a
triangle. To be "triangulated" means a person is emotionally
dependent on someone or something else while trying to develop
another relationship. A person who hasn't separated from his or her
parents is the classic example of triangulation. People can also be
triangulated with things as well, such as work, drugs, Internet,
hobbies, sports or money. Be careful that you and your partner are
free of triangles. The person caught in the triangle cannot be fully
emotionally available to you. You will not be their number one
priority. And that's no basis for a marriage. "Life isn't about the
breaths we take, it's about the moments that take our breath away!"

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Talking with my family.

I called my family in the Philippines and I was able to talk with my father. He was happy to talk to me but gets easily tired. We talked for almost an hour and then Maddie started crying and so he said to give attention to Maddie first. Then I called back and my uncle (father's brother) came to visit. He is with his daughter. Anyway, I was able to talk to him too and he is looking forward to seeing us in our upcoming vacation.

Saturday, August 15, 2009

My brother is going toTalibon.

My brother from Cebu working in Veco is going to visit my sister and father on Sunday. He only has Sunday off. He is working Monday thru Saturday and so it's not easy for him to visit all the time. Though Cebu and Bohol is near but he got no time. Whenever he go visit he can't relax the following day and still has to work. Anyway, I am happy that he is going to see my father and sister. Looking forward to seeing you all.

Monday, August 10, 2009

My cousin is going to have a surgery.

My cousin who is working as a nurse in Dubai left a message in my tag board that her younger brother is going to have an operation again with his jaw bone. When he was in the Philippines he was operated already twice and now is the third time. It seems that the jaw bone keeps on growing and that is why it is needed to be operated. They also want biopsy done. Anyway, they are asking for our prayers. So, please whoever is reading this please pray for him. Thank you all.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

My cousin is getting married.

My cousin in Davao is going to get married in December. His fiance is going home from New York for the wedding. The fiance invited me for the said wedding but unfortunately I'll be back here already. My mom might be able to attend she said if invited because her vacation is until January of next year. Hope, you have a lovely wedding Rogie boy.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

My aunt and uncle is going home.

My cousin gave birth to a baby girl and so my aunt and uncle are going home to Davao to see their granddaughter. Their flightis on September 9 and will be there for three weeks. Good for them. Hope our vacation is a long one too but unfortunately it's only two week. Well, that's better rather than not going home at all. Anyway, hope you have a wonderful trip to the Philippines and enjoy your granddaughter.